A Note to My Friends with Ever-Growing Families

Our family is complete. If you had asked me a few years ago I would not have said this with so much certainty, but we are not going to have more children. Things have been snipped, if you get my drift. 

We had our children young. Especially amongst our group of friends. Whom haven’t even started or are working on baby number one. We do have a few friends just starting baby number two and others working on baby three and four, but there are a few thoughts I’ve had each time I think about these friends who are continuing to grow their families that I wanted to share. Having a family is so special and I want to help them treasure each moment. 

1. Don’t worry about others when planning your own family. 

It’s common for friends to have children around the same time and for others to feel shamed for not having enough or having too many children. It’s absolutely no one else’s business. That decision is between you and your partner. If someone makes a comment, ignore them and move on with your life. Would it be fun for you and your bff to have kids that are bff’s? Sure! They could also hate each other’s guts. You just don’t know. So don’t base your decision on someone else’s life. 

2. Take professional maternity photos. 

I can’t tell you how much I regret not taking professional maternity photos. We didn’t have much money while I was pregnant, but I’m sure we could have found a way to get this done. I would love to see those photos now. I absolutely hated being pregnant, but it’s still a time to be treasured. I mean, it’s proof I made these babies! 

3. Shamelessly share as many photos of your children as you’d like. 

I see so many new moms apologizing while posting photos of their kids. Who freaking cares! Those moments are important to you. If someone doesn’t like it, they keep scrolling. Not a big deal. Plus, you can look back years later. Same idea with videos. 

4. Avoid moms groups on Facebook. 

These groups get so out of hand. If you like drama, it could be for you. I just can’t handle it, personally. 

5. Be selfish with your family time.

I know I’m a terrible friend. My friends know I’m a terrible friend. My children are growing and these are moments I’m not going to get back. I am selfish with my family time. My children and husband know they are number one and that’s what really matters. 

6. Create family traditions. 

Even if it’s something small, create family traditions. We go to the same Christmas street every year. My kids get pajamas on Christmas Eve. We go to the same pumpkin patch every year. We spend every Saturday morning snuggling on the couch. Whatever it is, create fond traditions for your children. As our children get older, they expect and look forward to these every year. 

7. Keep life realistic. 

Not every moment in time is going to be perfect. Social media keeps life pretty. You don’t have to go over to top to keep your children happy. All they really want is their parents to be around. Potty training won’t be fun and you’ll get pooped on a lot. In the end, it’s all worth it!!

Enjoy growing your family, my friends. I can’t wait to see their pictures all over my newsfeed. 

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  1. Yes, just yes to this ALL. Number 4, 5, and 7 especially spoke to me! I’m so selfish with my family time. I used to feel bad but we honestly don’t get as much as we’d like to so I cherish it. I’ve definitely learned to avoid facebook groups, they’re just too much for me and that plays into number 7… I NEED to keep life realistic, haha and avoiding all the beauty of social media totally helps.

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    • Thank you for reading!! Yes, I know others get annoyed when I don’t spend more time with them, but they all know family is everything to me, and when they get to that part of their lives I’ll understand too. Ha yeah, I can’t do Facebook groups. The drama unloads real quickly. 🙄

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    • Exactly my feelings! And I don’t what type of group it is. Add more than five women and at some point there’s some sort of drama. There was drama in a buying/selling group I was in. I don’t even know how that happens. 🙄

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